I’m also seeing my server show up as remote. For context this is running on an Unraid Docker with a host network connection. I had the preferred network interface set to the internal docker interface (I remember setting this for a particular reason but I can’t remember the reason why now). I tried adding 192.168.0.0/24 as a LAN network but it still shows as remote. Only changing to the external network interface allows me to get the server to show as Nearby. Any guesses as to why setting the LAN network to my LAN subnet wouldn’t work in this case? I have Treat WAN IP as LAN Bandwidth turned on.
The relay isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be very helpful for users with certain network limitations. That’s why this option is enabled by default
Just to get this straight:
if your remote access setup is properly working, the relay won’t be used no matter if the option is enabled or not
if your remote access setup isn’t working, enabling the relay option could provide a basic/limited level of access; if the option is disabled, your server will simply not be accessible.