I am hoping this post will help someone who feels like they’ve tried everything. Let me get right to it:
IP Passthrough
I opened the port(s) on my firewall (TCP32400. Then UDP1900, etc.). Then did the NAT on my gateway. Always the same result: RA would turn green for like 3 seconds, then die. Web-based port checkers would always say 32400 was closed. So, I manned up, and called my ISP support. They logged into my gateway and said it all looked good. He poked around a bit, then asked for my MAC address. He added that to the IP Passthrough table, and BAM! It’s been up and rock-solid since then (and is shown as open via port checkers).
So, log back into your router. Go to the firewall section and find IP Passthrough. Add the IP/MAC address of your media server. My router has a drop-down showing all devices; YMMV.
Hope this helps someone who’s pulling their hair out like I was!
Yeah, I hear you about that double-NAT and exposing resources. Thanks. I’m buttoned down pretty good. Just trying to help anyone who might be having pains.